Sometimes, the writing is on the wall, it’s just difficult to read. The same can be said about relationships that sadly are coming to an end. You may be aware of the clues or simply have a feeling that the once happy and close bond you had with your partner is not what it used to be. Breaking up is never easy but it can be helped if you are prepared. Here are some of the most common signs it’s time to say farewell.
Repeat patterns of on again, off again
If you have found yourself in a continuous cycle of splitting up and getting back together, then it could be time to look seriously at the health of your relationship. On and off again relationships may be fun when you get back together but when splitting up is becoming a regular occurrence, it is probably not a healthy connection. While the highs and lows may keep you both interested, long-term healthy bonds are also built on stability and ease.
You’ve started to dislike yourself
If you have begun to feel a little down on yourself then it may be your relationship that is making you low. While being with your partner once brought you joy, now you don’t feel the same person. If you are always compromising or making excuses for your partner, over time, this can chip away at your self-confidence. The link to your relationship may not always be clear, so make sure you check in with yourself on how you have really been feeling and whether this could be a manifestation of your relationship.
You do things less and less as a couple
If you were the kind of couple that were joined at the hip, but are now spending less time together, it could be a sign that you are growing apart. Perhaps work and commitments are keeping you separate, but if one or neither of you are putting in the effort to spend more time together, then these actions could signify that your relationship is coming to an end.
The trust has died
If there has been dishonesty or betrayal of any kind in your relationship, then regaining the trust again can be very difficult. You have tried to get your relationship back on track but trust issues keep on cropping up. If this is the case, take some time to consider if you are really ready to trust again or if you have worked hard enough to be trustworthy. It could be that you need to do some real work on yourself to be a good partner to someone else.
You are the one making all the effort
Perhaps you have had your ups and downs with your partner and have both decided to give it another go. Or perhaps you have recognized that the shine has worn off your relationship. If you have agreed to turn things around but find you are the only one making a real effort, it could be time to call it a day with your partner. For any relationship to work, there needs to be a joint effort from both sides.
Conclusion
Most of the time, you will know when it is time to break up with someone but perhaps don’t want to believe the signs or face the confrontation. Although saying goodbye to someone you once loved or cared about is difficult, realising that you were not meant to be can be the beginning of a new and positive era in both of your lives, even if it presents a challenging period in the short term.